Rules of Conduct
- Disrespectful and bad attitudes of students will not be tolerated.
- For non-married persons, there is not to be any kissing, hand holding, bear hugs, arms around each other or any other public displays of affection at or around Nexus activities. This is regardless of what parents may allow.
- No bullying of any kind.
- No drugs, alcohol, tobacco including e-cigarettes are allowed at Nexus activities.
- During Bible Study time, children under 16 who do not have a parent with them, or under the supervision of another adult assigned by the parent, must attend their age-appropriate Bible Study.
- Foul language is not allowed.
- Any activity which is customarily or culturally considered homosexual or other perverted activity will not be acceptable.
- No leggings unless other clothing is worn over them that is no shorter than the top of the knee.
- No "short" shorts. Shorts should be fingertip length.
- No sagging clothing exposing parts of your body that are inappropriate! Pants with no holes or rips above the knees.
- No yoga pants.
- No halter tops, tube tops, sleeveless tops with large armholes, low cut (front or back) tops or tops revealing the middle section of the body. Tops that are in a tank style to measure 3 finger width across the shoulder.
- Clothing with offensive, suggestive, obscene, or risqué writing or drawing is not permitted. Gang related apparel to not be worn.
- Items of apparel, jewelry, or grooming that are considered an extreme in dress (including clothing that is torn, cut, or ragged) or that advertise illegal substances or alcohol or that could be associated with gang related activities to not be worn.
- Any jewelry, body art, or piercing (other than ears) that is extreme. This also includes jewelry with spikes, and chokers.
- “Gothic” and other extreme forms of make-up are prohibited.
- The director of Nexus has the authority to determine the appropriateness of the dress of participants. The final decision with regard to dress code rests with the director.
Guideline for both parents and children who participate in activities through Nexus Family Ministries. We ask you to self-police it. We may allow it, we may ask you to change it.
Clothing will be neat, clean, appropriately sized and modest. The following guidelines are offered to assist in determining what is “appropriately sized” and acceptable. Our goal is for students and parents to be modestly dressed and to not tempt or to become a stumbling block to other Christians in our ministry.
A note to strongly conservative parents: We certainly recognize your concerns. As a homeschool dad or mom, we protect as much as we can from the "world". Our defense mechanisms want to completely keep it out. The world will creep in here and there as our Christian-valued culture interacts with the world. Please try to have as much patience as you can. Please voice your disapproval. Some of your disapproval will just be an immeasurable gut feeling! Just because we can't measure a gut feeling doesn't mean it is not reflecting real issues. Help us fight the fight, but understand too that we are dealing with many. Your participation with us is important; you are a help to the balance. Christ said that He did not pray they we would be taken out of this world. Because of that we still have to deal with and work with it as our Christian culture interacts with it. We believe it is appropriate to still not accept the worlds standards, we just believe that balance and good judgment is required as we deal with people on a Christ-like level.
Dance Dress Codes
o Ladies - Dresses and skirts fitting for church. Knee length, tea length and long dresses are fine. No slits above the knee.
o Men - Slacks and Suit Coat and tie if desired.
o Anything in the "Every Day Student & Parent Dress Code "
Black Tie Event
o Ladies - Nice dresses, no strapless dresses. Dress lengths to not be above the knee, tea length and long dresses are fine. No slits above the knee.
o Men - Formal: Slacks and Suit Coat. Black Tie: Tuxedo.
o "Every Day Student & Parent Dress Code" Applies.
A Word About Dancing
DANCE MISSION: Enjoy the life that God has given us and that in and of itself glorifies God. It is a gift! Who doesn't unwrap a gift? It is an insult to the giver to not unwrap a gift!
"....let your heart give you joy in the days of your youth" (Ec 11:9)
"...there is nothing better than to be happy and enjoy ourselves as long as we can. And people should eat and drink and enjoy the fruits of their labor, for these are gifts from God". (Ec 3:12-13).
Currently much of what we are known for are the annual dances we host. We try to point these young men and women, who must carry on the mission to the world, to do all of this to God's glory. Yes, even in our feasting when we are respectful and enjoying conversation while getting to know others with genuine concern, we are glorifying God. These dances are an opportunity to take God's creation of male and female and encourage respectful behavior. For young men to learn how to lead and treat a lady, for young women to learn how to follow and respect a man. In the minds of many, this is just a platform to "justify" being on the fringes of morality. Well, for some it will be; for some, that may be their intention, but does that mean we should throw out everything for the purpose of some. Where would that leave us?
Doing things in Godly balance is key. These dances help take the "scary" out of boy meets girl. Some of that scary we believe is unhealthy and is just what Satan wants.... to think that it is wrong to be with the opposite sex. While we certainly and strongly believe in boundaries, we believe that any unhealthy approach to God's creation is a wrong one. Just because it is wrong to be a glutton, doesn't mean we believe it is wrong to eat. Food is God's gift! Too much of it is Satan's! We strive to be good judges in the difference. It is our prayer that we succeed in glorifying God in judgment! Furthermore, if we teach that is it "wrong to eat" (figuratively), our children are smart enough see the lack of logic and if we teach that something is a sin, when it is not, we chase them from the Gospel because they identify it as not being right.
A Word About Standards and Codes
Because we have standards, rules and codes of conduct does not mean we want to have a "legalistic", approach to our organization. In a diverse culture with many variations of standards, it is necessary for everyone to know what kind of an organization we are and what kind of standards we have. These are outward standards set to attempt to have Christ-like modesty in the particular time and culture we are in. We desire a "spirit of the law" approach as opposed to a letter of the law approach.